When you're single, it's easy to look at friends' marriages and think, "oh, when I'm married I'll treat my spouse better than that!" Or, "If I'm ever lucky enough to have a spouse like that, I'll never take him/her for granted!"
Then you get married, and you do all the things you never thought you would do...
You fall asleep snoring on the couch in front of the TV after dinner instead of sitting up playing Scrabble or laughing and talking and giving each other foot rubs - like you used to do when you were dating. You forget to kiss them hello when you get home from work, instead launching into a litany of complaints about your horrible day. You stop having sex more than once a week (or month).
And if you have kids, it just makes the equation more complicated - although it doesn't take kids to start taking your spouse for granted.
We all think we will be better at marriage than our parents, or our friends, or our co-workers, but the truth is, marriage is work! We don't really understand this when we're single, but once you have made that commitment, once you have made a home together, commingled all of your stuff, and started really noticing all of their annoying little habits that you ignored before you were married, it gets way too easy to start taking each other for granted, and to stop doing the special things you did together - or for each other - when you were just dating. Especially in today's crazy-busy world, when it seems you work all day, run around doing errands all weekend, and at the end of the day, all you want to do is just go to sleep!
But there is a reason you got married to your spouse in the first place. There is a reason why so many of us all over the world choose to marry our lives with someone else's. Human relationships and connections are necessary for our health, our personal growth, and our happiness. And the person you married is still the person you married - even with all those habits that now annoy you so much!
If you're feeling stuck in a rut right now with your significant other, here are 6 ways to shake things up a bit, rebuild your connection, and remind them (and yourself) of how important they really are to you.
Sometimes I feel like life is just speeding by so fast I am almost missing it... It's hard for me to believe it is fall already, and we are heading into the holiday season soon!
I stumbled across an interesting article this week, and it made me stop and think about whether I truly live a holistic life...
I came to the conclusion that I don't - at least, not right now. I am so focused on the future, and the goals I want to accomplish (quitting my job, making a living doing what I love and having the freedom to work when and where I want, etc.), that sometimes I miss some of the present - which is all we really have when it comes right down to it, right?
So yes, I realize I'm not exactly practicing what I preach right at this second (though I'm working on it), but I hope you will take the time to read this and think about what living a holistic life means to you. Are you there yet? Are any of these aspects listed below lacking in your life - or missing altogether? Do you see areas of your life you need to work on to regain balance?
Here are 4 ways to live a more healthy, holistic life, starting today:*
We all get old. It's just a fact of life.
But aging is a little different. Why? Because aging is something that we actually can have some control over. While you can't help the fact that you are going to get older, you can influence how the symptoms of aging will affect you - at least to some degree.
There are 3 main factors that cause you to look and feel older (sometimes even older than you actually are), but the good news is, all three of them can be slowed by making the right healthy choices as you age.
Here is what you should know about why you may be experiencing symptoms of aging, and what you can do about it.